Autumn of my fertility. I admit, it’s not quite as exciting as autumn itself. Waking up this morning, I didn’t even need to experience the 64 degree temperature first-hand. Just seeing it in the lower left corner of my local TV news was good enough to get me pumped up. Then there was the autumn of my fertility: Getting married at 38 1/2+ and, for an entire year trying to get pregnant naturally by myself (well, not totally by myself. I’m not a complete idiot.)
In both cases, the real autumn and the autumn of my fertility, my heart pounded with anticipation but let’s face it: The prospect of pumpkins, hayrides, candy apples, and the state fair is more thrilling than the prospect of emotional, physical, social, and financial devastation. And truth be told, when you’re trying to get pregnant on your own (not totally “on your own”– why do I keep doing that?), you only half think about fertility treatments and you never think what that might entail. Before I ever even considered going to a fertility clinic, I definitely saw images of those elevator doors closing on my motherhood opportunities and me wedging my foot in there to hold them open as long as I could.
But I never really entertained the thought of a never-ending parade of blood tests or constant probes or sticking this in there, or insurance or what to tell my coworkers about why I was switching my schedule… In fact, I think I was kind of in denial about how difficult it was all going to be. Even though I knew conception got a lot harder as you got older, I still just figured I would cuddle with my husband, get pregnant, and then watch the news. I never did ovulation kits, or temperature taking, or special diets. And I never read any of those debilitating statistics about exactly how difficult it could be. “When you’re 28, the chance of you getting pregnant in the first three months of trying is 1 in 2. At 32, it’s 1 in 12. At 38, it’s 1 in 1200. At your age, it’s 1 in 54 million… Well, that’s still better odds than winning Power ball.” (Please do not be either encouraged or discouraged by my numbers. Clearly I pulled them out of a spot six inches to the left of where the Progesterone shots went.)
Every fall, we go do a corn maze. We’re notoriously terrible at it. They give you a flag if you get lost so you can wave it and the staff will come rescue you. Throughout the fun-filled afternoon you can hear the sweet sound of wives yelling at their husbands: “We’ve been in here for 2 hours. Wave the damn flag already!!”
All things considered, I’d rather be hopelessly lost in a corn maze than an infertility maze…. and I’ve been hopelessly lost in both… more than once.
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